FOR YOUR TEARS

VULNERABLE HEARTS

2012-02-03T09:51:00.000-08:00

I saw this quote over at Anna's blog An Inch of Gray and I thought I would share it with you. Anna lost her 12 year old son Jack last September. Her posts are really worth reading, she expresses her grief in a very profound way.

"I do not believe that sheer suffering teaches. If suffering alone taught, all the world would be wise, since everyone suffers. To suffering must be added mourning, understanding, patience, love, openness and willingness to remain vulnerable."

Anne Morrow Lindbergh

If you are in need of a handkerchief for yourself or someone you know please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com . I will need a full name, mailing address and brief description of who passed away. I would also appreciate a blog link if you have one. Take care and God bless. ((HUGS))

SNOW ANGELS

2012-01-22T09:47:00.000-08:00

Snow Angels are one of my favorite things but I do not have a collection of them because you really can't collect snow angels but I do have a few ornaments of children making snow angels. Many of you may not know that I am a collector of ornaments and my tree has over 800+ ornaments on it. The last few weeks since Christmas I haven't been feeling well and as of today our tree is still up! I don't really mind because I just love it so much. Hopefully I will get all the ornaments packed up this coming week.

I pray that everyone is doing well in the new year. I think about you all the time and talk about all of you with my family/friends. Honestly you are always on my mind and in my prayers. ((HUGS))

If you are here to request a handkerchief for yourself or someone you know please send me an email at dpucci9972@gmail.com . I will need a full name, mailing address and a brief description of who passed away. I would also appreciate a blog link if you have one. Take care and God Bless.

Love,

A FEW THINGS TO SHARE

2012-01-07T12:47:00.000-08:00

On Monday Kelly at Sufficient Grace has a new Walking With You Bereavement Support starting. Here is a paragraph from her post:

"Beginning next week, we will post a new Walking With You each Monday (excerpts from the original WWY), and we invite you to join us. If you have a blog, please do a post on your blog on the same subject and link up to the post here each Monday. If you are a bereaved mother, but you do not have a blog, feel free to share your heart on that topic in the comments of my post. And, I hope everyone will take the time to read and reply to the mothers in the comments. The comfort comes not only in telling our own stories, but in encouraging one another by commenting and sharing. So please take some time to do that each week!"

If you don't know Kelly and her ministries you can check them out here:

I also want to share a post from a dear BLM who recently had her Rainbow baby. She talks about what "Rainbow Baby" now means to her. Please click on over and visit with Trisha at Looking for Blue Sky and see here precious Brady.

If you are here to request a handkerchief for yourself or someone you know please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com . I will need a full name, address and brief description of who passed away. If there is a blog I can visit I would appreciate the link.

Take care and may God bless each of you.

Love,

BLESSINGS TO YOU IN 2012

2012-01-01T15:20:00.000-08:00

If you are here to request a handkerchief for you or someone you know please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com . If you could send me the full name, address and a brief description of who passed I would appreciate that information. Also if there is a blog I can link to that would be appreciated also. ((HUGS))

YOUR IN MY HEART

2011-12-23T00:00:00.000-08:00

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year

Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

JACK'S TREE

2011-12-09T09:26:00.001-08:00

Three months ago in September my friend from bowling, Headless Mom, asked if I could send a handkerchief to a woman named Anna who lost her 12 year old son Jack in a tragic drowning accident.

I recently shared the story of his sister Margaret on my Just Breathe blog and the trip she was blessed with to see Justin Beiber at the AMA awards in Los Angeles. What a wonderful young girl she is.

Ever since his passing I have been reading Anna's posts. The families incredible faith in God is so inspiring to read. When faced with their worst nightmare she is able to write the most moving posts. So I was reading the post In The Woods where Anna says "One of the things that has sustained us over these weeks as we drive through our town are the royal blue ribbons on trees, schools, mailboxes, cars, and fence posts telling us that our community cares and has not forgotten Jack. The blue ribbons feel like a hug to me each time I see them."

So when I read that post I was so moved by it that I felt inspired to do something with ribbons to honor Jack. So in my comment to Anna I told her that I was going to put ribbons on my small Norfolk Pine in our front yard. Anna was moved by my comment and asked me to send her a picture when I did. Just thinking about this now gives me goosebumps. It felt so wonderful as my daughter and I were putting the bows on the tree knowing that we could do something to honor Jack.

If you have time please go on over to read Anna's posts I am sure she would love to receive a hug from you.

FOR JACK

Wishing all of you a blessed holiday season.

If you are here to request a handkerchief for yourself or someone you know please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com . I will need a full name, address, brief description of who passed away and a link blog if one is available. Please know that I care and will be keeping you in my prayers.

HEARTS FILLED WITH SADNESS

2011-11-11T09:10:00.000-08:00

I know that for most of you as the holidays approach there is extra sadness in your hearts. We all look forward to spending the holidays with our family but when family members are no longer here a cloud of sadness can surround us and that is only more intense when it is a child who has passed away. I miss my mother more when the holidays come around which is nothing compared to your loss. I want you to know that my thoughts and prayers will be with you as you move through this season. ((HUGS))

If you are here to request a handkerchief for yourself or someone you know please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com . I will need a full name, address, a brief description of who passed away and a blog link if you have one. Be sure to include your email address.

AS TIME PASSES

2011-10-28T14:48:00.000-07:00

Can you believe it is going to be November already? I really don't like how quickly the years seem to pass. I thought I would share one of my pet peeves with you. I don't like the gravestones on the lawns for Halloween. I don't like the term R.I.P. either. It just rubs me the wrong way. It seems cheap to me yet I see people use it all the time. I'm not saying that I don't wish for people to rest in peace I just don't like when people use the initials. Most likely because it reminds me of the Halloween tombstones and death is so much more than that.

I don't like costume parties either but I love that other people do. I have a few decorations but they are all cute, not scary! The best part of Halloween for me is handing out the candy to the children at the door. For many years now we have been giving out the big candy bars. We buy the packages at Costco. Let me tell you that the joy the children express just brings a smile to my face. It's worth every penny I spend!

I you or someone you know is in need of a handkerchief to catch their tears please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com . I will need a brief description of who passed away, a full name, address and a blog link if one is available. Please make sure I have an email to reach you at. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. ((HUGS))

GIVEAWAY WINNER

2011-10-21T00:00:00.000-07:00

Actually it's winners because I have decided to give away my copy of Baby Dust also. I haven't gotten around to reading it and I felt it was more important to share it with a BLM.

The first winner is Amy at Keeping Up With the Schultz Family . Amy is actually a very dear blog friend of mine. We didn't meet because of For Your Tears but sadly Amy joined this community when she had a miscarriage. She now has a 3 month old son named Tyler along with her daughter Alyce who turns 4 soon.

The second winner is Bree from 365 Days of Evan. Bree lost a baby in 2008 and has an adorable son named Evan who is two with the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen!

Congratulations ladies! Feel free to go over and visit with them.

If you or someone you know is in need of a handkerchief to catch their tears please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com . I will need a full name, address and a blog link if you have one.

Keeping all of you in my heart and prayers.

P.S. I picked the winners on Random.Org , sorry I forgot to take pictures but trust me when I say that I cannot cheat on something like this.

WAVE OF LIGHT (+ GIVEAWAY)

2011-10-12T00:00:00.000-07:00

Would You Please Join Us

Saturday October 15, 2011

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I heard about this book over at Holly's blog Caring for Carleigh and ended up emailing Deanna Roy so I could mail her a handkerchief. I decided to purchase a book for one of my readers to win with this giveaway. I also ordered one for myself but haven't had a chance to read it yet. If you would like to know more about this book you can read Holly's review here. (thank you Holly for letting me link to you) Just leave a comment here for your entry into the giveaway.

If you are in need of a handkerchief for yourself or someone you know who has lost a loved one please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com . I will need a full name, address and a brief discription of who passed away. If you have a link to a blog I would appreciate it. ((HUGS))

RAINBOWS ARE SO BEAUTIFUL

2011-10-06T13:48:00.000-07:00

I found this on Pinterest.

THE PASSING OF TIME

2011-09-19T09:01:00.000-07:00

Where has this year gone? I remember last February when my husband asked me if I wanted to travel with him to Europe. We were gone for three week in June and now on October 1st it will be three months that we are home. Then on October 3rd I turn 60! Where did those 60 years go? While we were in France we drove from Paris to Italy and it was so beautiful. Old churches, vineyards, sunflower fields and old cemeteries. We did stop at one along the way. The majority of the markers were so old they didn't even have names on them anymore. I have always been drawn to old headstones. Of course I do know how different it is when you are visiting the grave of a loved one, especially a child. My heart is with you. ((HUGS))

If you are in need of a handkerchief for yourself or someone you know who has lost a loved one please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com . I will need a full name, address, a brief description of who passed away and a link to a blog if you have one. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

STRENGTH FROM GOD

2011-09-14T12:42:00.000-07:00

Last week my friend IRL shared on Facebook the passing of a twelve year old boy named Jack who last Thursday lost his life in the devastating floods in Virginia. On Monday my friend Headless Mom did a post on her blog The Adventures of the Headless Family about his passing and his mother Anna whom she met in person last year. Yesterday we were at bowling and we talked about his passing. She mentioned that his mother Anna spoke at his funeral. I cannot imagine having the strength or the words to do this. This kind of strength can only come from God. I am asking you to go over and visit with Anna at An Inch of Gray where she shares her spoken words from Jacks funeral on Monday.

If you or anyone you know is in need of a handkerchief to catch their tears please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com . I will need a full name, address, blog link, (if you have one) and a brief description of who passed. Take care and God Bless.

BLUE BUTTERFLY

2011-09-07T18:36:00.000-07:00

Isn't it just so pretty. I didn't see many butterflies this summer which actually made me blue. I have always thought about your babies coming in my yard for a visit. I always say hello to them. I can't believe that summer is coming to an end. I had a wonderful summer and looking forward to the months ahead I always think of all the work involved with Thanksgiving and Christmas. I love them deeply but thinking about it now exhausts me. Wishing all of you a beautiful season ahead and contentment in your hearts. I hate to think of all the heartache in our world, that makes me sad.

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If you are visiting here to request a handkerchief for yourself or someone you know who lost a precious loved one please send me an email at dpucci9972@gmail.com . I will need a full name, address, a brief description of who passed away and a link to a blog if you/they have one. Please know that I care and hold your pain deep within my heart. ((HUGS))

Love,

THE SECRET SOCIETY

2011-09-03T12:00:00.000-07:00

As you know I have a heart for Baby Lost Mother's. (BLM) I am not a member of the Secret Society and was very naive for the first 57 years of my life. I personally know a few people who have lost their children and my own daughter suffered a miscarriage several years ago but I never knew the numbers. Here is a link to HOPEXCHANGE that will show you the numbers. (Please go over and look at this) I have tried to spread the word through my blogs on the importance of knowing the hearts of these women, knowing what they are going through and what you need to know to help them through this horrific journey of grief they are on. I had tried several times to write to Oprah thinking that her show would be the perfect venue to get the word out. This is a SECRET SOCIETY because no one wants to talk about it.

My dear friend Laura at MOMENTS OF PAUSE has written a wonderful post about something so simple as the tag that is going around on Facebook to bring awareness to breast cancer. It seems like an innocent tag to most but to those who have suffered the loss of their baby or have infertility issues can be hurt when they see this. I don't go on Facebook often and actually didn't know about this until I read Laura's post. Then shortly after I read it I got an email from my niece sharing this tag with me. Most likely I would have played it too just like Laura did.

This is where God comes into play and His timing is always perfect. Laura heals people with her beautiful posts. Those who are newer BLM can feel comfort in reading her posts but she can only reach so many people so spreading the word like I am doing now will bring others to her post. God definitely had a reason for the timing of how I received both of these emails.

I am not saying anyone is wrong for playing this tag. I think I did the bra one last year. So far I haven't found anything saying that this tag is actually supporting breast cancer awareness. I also know that we cannot protect people from getting hurt or having pain because of this. I just wanted to bring awareness to my BLM whom I love and felt the need to share the post written by Laura.

If you are in need of a handkerchief for yourself or someone dear to you who has lost a loved one please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com . I will need a full name, address, a brief description of who passed away and a link to a blog if you have one. Take care and God Bless.

Love,

SURROUNDED BY BEAUTY

2011-08-21T10:06:00.000-07:00

Our trip to Mammoth Lakes was wonderful and very relaxing. I am always drawn to the wild flowers, these were on the side of the road in Yosemite. We took a day trip to Yosemite to look around, we hadn't been there in several years. There is so much beauty to see in our world. This next picture is the Bridal Veil Falls. With all the snow we had this year it is absolutely beautiful.

If you have come here to request a handkerchief please send me an email at dpucci9972@gmail.com so I can get one in the mail to you. You can also request one for someone you know who has lost a child or anyone you know who is in pain after losing a loved one. I will need a full name and address along with some information on who passed away. If there is a blog I can read I would appreciate a link to it. If there is anything else I can do for you please let me know. ((HUGS))

Love,

GIVEAWAY WINNER

2011-08-01T17:15:00.000-07:00

I had 12 comments when I went over to get the winner of the butterfly ornament that I purchased in Europe for a giveaway here for my two year Blogiversary. Congratulations to Jamie (mrsnice777) at Forget-me-not, Oh Lord who has a precious new daughter named Hannah Faith Wills born on July 8, 2011. Congratulations Jamie!

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We are going to be going on our annual trip to Mammoth Lakes, CA. We get the same cabin each year for a week. It's our time to read, play scrabble, hike and just relax. Our daughter & SIL who live with us can't make it this year and will be here to take care of our best furry friend Skye so she won't have to the kennel. That's Skye with our grand puppy Spiderman (a.k.a. Charlie). Skye is two and half years old and is a Cairn Terrier like Toto from the Wizard of Oz.

If you are here to request a handkerchief for yourself or someone you know who has lost a child please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com. I will need a full name and mailing address along with a brief description of who passed. If there is a blog I can go to I would love to have a link. Take care and God Bless.

IT'S BEEN TWO YEARS

2011-07-11T13:34:00.001-07:00

On June 21, 2009, two years ago, I started this blog. Besides having a wonderful husband and two beautiful grown children this blog is something that I am extremely proud of, one of my best accomplishments in my life. Since that day I have personally mailed out 296 handkerchiefs and donated close to 200 for some special circumstances. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

I am home from my three week trip to Europe. We were in London for a week, Paris for over a week and drove to Turin, Italy from Paris. It was absolutely wonderful. We had many cloudy, cool, rainy days but looking back now it was actually better then the extreme heat in Italy! I bought the above "Butterfly" at the cutest little shop in Worcester, UK where we spent a few nights in a charming hotel on a river front. I bought this butterfly for one of you to have so please leave a comment so you can be entered. (if you are a no-reply I will need your email address)

Here are a few mosaic photos I put together so you can see a glimpse of some of the things I saw in Europe. I will be starting some posts soon on my Just Breathe blog telling the tales and showing the pictures from each day of our trip. If you are interested in seeing more just head on over to check them out in the near future. I have some fun stories to share.

(You can click on these to enlarge them)

If you are interested in requesting a handkerchief for someone you know who lost a child or would like one for yourself please email me at: dpucci9972@gmail.com I will need the full name/address and a brief description of who passed away. If there is a blog I can visit I would appreciate a link to that as well.

Take Care and God Bless,

OUT OF THE COUNTRY....

2011-06-01T19:00:00.000-07:00

BUT ALWAYS HERE FOR YOU

I have been given a wonderful opportunity to go to Europe for three weeks with my husband on his business trip. We will be in the United Kingdom, France and Italy. I am very nervous and extremely excited. Packing is my greatest challenge. This is my first trip to Europe.

I will not be taking handkerchiefs with me on this trip. When I travel in the United States I do take them with me so I am prepared to mail them out when needed. I am not sure how my Internet will work but I am planning on having access to it. I will have handkerchiefs ready to mail out at home which my daughter can mail for me. Our daughter and her husband live with us which gives us a built in sitter for our awesome Cairn Terrier Skye. It makes it nice not to have to worry about her when I travel.

If you are in need of a handkerchief for yourself or someone else please send me an email at dpucci9972@gmail.com . Let me know if you would like it mailed out immediately or when I return from my trip. I will need your/their full name, address and a brief description of who passed away. I would also like to know if there is a blog I can visit. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

I will be gone from June 10th to July 1st.

THINKING OF YOU

2011-05-02T00:00:00.000-07:00

I know that this will be a hard week for you.
Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
May God comfort you with His love.

There will be a day when you will live with your children in Heaven. May the path to your home be as lovely as this one. ((HUGS))

If you are in need of a handkerchief for yourself or for someone you care about please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com . I will need your/their full name, address, a brief description of who passed and a blog link if one is available. Please know that I care and hold you close in my heart.

Look at the beautiful post that Christy wrote about the handkerchief she received. If I can give one moment of comfort during the hardest of times then I've done what God asked me to do.

INTERNATIONAL BABYLOST MOTHER'S DAY

2011-05-01T00:00:00.000-07:00

Happy Mother's Day

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Always and forever in my heart.

A butterfly lights beside us like a sunbeam....

2011-04-02T11:27:00.000-07:00

The Graphics Fairy

A butterfly lights beside us like a sunbeam

And for a brief moment its glory and beauty belong to our world

But then it flies again and though we wish it could have stayed...

We feel lucky to have seen it.

Author Unknown

If you are visiting here and want to request a handkerchief for yourself please leave me a comment with your email address or you can email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com. I would love to have some information about who has passed away, your full name, address and if you have a blog I can visit.

If you would like to request a handkerchief for someone who has lost a loved one please send me an email and include the above information so I can get one in the mail to catch their tears.

Take care and God Bless,

THE NECKLACE

2011-03-09T11:45:00.000-08:00

When I was at bowling on Tuesday there was a woman selling some Cookie Lee Jewelry. I saw this necklace and it just spoke to me. The angel wing for your babies, the beads reminded me of teardrops and the heart of course is mine, which is where I hold you.

I hadn't even noticed the fleur de lis. I do think of Paris when I see this symbol. (I am going to Paris this summer for the first time) First it represents the Lily flower which makes me think of Easter and the promise of life after death. It has been used to represent strength and power which I see in each one of you.

A few things that I found on Fleur de lis which I thought were interesting:

The fleur de lis or "flower of the lily" is a stylized version of a flower in blossom. It represents an open flower with the upper center and drooping sides depicting the petals and the lower center is the stalk.

The symbol was adopted by a French king in the twelfth century for his coat of arms. The symbol has been adopted by military units throughout the years, as a way of conveying strength and power.

The fleur de lis symbol has become associated with monarchs, courageous warriors and the elite. The fleur de lis is linked with the Holy Trinity, excellence, illumination, purity and human existence.

Just wanted to share my necklace with you.

Always,

P.S. If you have come here to ask for a handkerchief to catch your tears, or those of someone you care about, please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com

HOW CAN YOU HELP

2011-03-02T05:45:00.001-08:00

Something that is ever present on my mind is helping parents through their grief. We all know that this is the worst pain a person will ever experience in their life in my opinion. I believe that getting information out to the people around them, those who love them and care about them is extremely important. If you use Google as a home page you may have seen this article today up on your page: HOW TO HELP THE BEREAVED PARENT wikiHow that I thought was very good. I know that most of you reading my page are the bereaved parent so this is not for you.

My dream is that people everywhere would read this article and be prepared to help you.

I have been in Florida for the last two weeks visiting my family. It has been a great visit and I return home on Saturday evening. As always I do travel with my handkerchiefs in case someone is in need of one. Please let me know if you or someone you know is in need of a handkerchief to catch their tears. Because I don't know everyone in the blogging community please send me requests or links when you see them so I can get in touch with the grieving parents. If this person is close to you and you have their address please send it to me so I can get a handkerchief in the mail to them. dpucci9972@gmail.com

HOLDING YOU CLOSE IN MY HEART,

BUTTERFLY

2011-01-27T11:12:00.000-08:00

A baby Monarch butterfly came for a visit today in my backyard and I immediately thought about your babies. I always say hello when a butterfly visits. I just want you to know that you are always on my mind and always in my prayers. ((HUGS))

If you are in need of a handkerchief to catch your tears please let me know. Just leave me a comment with your email address or send an email to dpucci9972@gmail.com . I will need your full name, address, a brief description of who passed away and a link to your blog if you have one. You can also request a handkerchief to be mailed to someone you know who has lost a loved one. As a mother our children are our babies no matter what age they are.

STYLISH BLOGGER AWARD

2011-01-15T21:00:00.000-08:00

See this pretty award to the left. I received three of them this week. I decided to do one post over at my Just Breathe blog. Please stop on over and check it out. Thank you Katina at Peaceful Divas , Jamie at Forget-me-not, Oh Lord! and Joanna from Pregnancy, Miscarriage & Life with Chronic Pain. It always feels so good to receive awards from our friends. Thank you :)

BLESSINGS FOR THE NEW YEAR

2011-01-07T19:38:00.001-08:00

It is a new year with so many hopes and dreams being sent to God. I pray that everyone will be blessed in ways you never thought possible. I know that so many of you have hearts filled with sorrow and I pray for your comfort.

If you are in need of a handkerchief for your tears please send me an email with your full name, address, blog link if you have one and a brief description of the loved one who passed. If you would like to request a handkerchief to be sent to someone you know who has suffered a loss please email me with the above information if you have it. If not just the name and address will be fine. dpucci9972@gmail.com

All my love,

MY EMOTIONAL CHRISTMAS EVE

2010-12-29T11:20:00.000-08:00

I have a story to share with all of you. I was overwhelmed with emotions when I attended the Christmas Eve Candlelight Service last Friday evening. I was just a mess, holding back tears the whole time. So many emotions flowing through my heart and mind. On Christmas day I received an email from a baby lost mother (BLM) who lost her Ryan Elizabeth on November 23, 2010, she was born still. They are currently living in Germany, please feel free to visit her blog Livin' for Ryan and send her your love. She was thanking me for her handkerchief which helped her through the last month and was wishing me a Merry Christmas.

Things like this don't just happen without God being involved with each detail. I was sitting at my computer in tears reading her email and I made a decision that I wanted to share my Christmas Eve with her. This is what I wrote in my email to her:

"Thank you for including me in your wishes. I was at church last night, I always go on Christmas Eve and I was overwhelmed with emotion last night. All the children dressed in their new Christmas clothes, sweet babies in their mothers laps, grandparents with the biggest smiles loving on their grandchildren and I just started crying. All these emotions flowed through me and I was thinking of all the BLM's. I could never say I know how you feel but last night I came really close because I seemed to be mourning a loss myself but in a different way. I turned 59 this year and I so desire to have a grandchild. My children are not sure they even want families and I mourned for what I don't have. Our daughter lost a baby at 12 weeks into the pregnancy 8 years ago in October. They had only been married for 3 months when she found out she was pregnant. They were not ready and did not want to become parents but accepted it as best they could. When she miscarried it was more about her life then her child because she bled badly and wasn't doing well. I never really mourned for the lost child. She was okay and she really never felt the loss in the way others do. I did mourn for this baby last night. My mother passed away at 56 from a massive heart attack. She was blessed to see all of her grandchildren, our daughter being the youngest at 10 months old. I worry about never having a grandchild to hold and love. I am overweight, have COPD and high blood pressure. I wonder if I will ever get to do that but I know now that I also have a baby waiting for me in Heaven. It all hit me last night in church. I have never shared this story on my blog but I know that I will. God has placed this on my heart to share what happened and my own desires. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Have a blessed day. ((HUGS))"

I haven't shared the story of our daughters miscarriage because I never new how to explain it, the words never would form. I think that maybe I have been worried about how it would be received since she didn't feel the loss in the same way as all of you. There is nothing wrong with how she grieved, it was just her way. Obviously this is my time to share, time that was given to me from God. This blog did not come about because of what happened to our daughter. This blog came about from something that happened almost 11 years ago. Now here I am typing with tears forming in my eyes. I just received a Christmas card from my dear friends in Chicago. It's been a long time since they have sent us a card, not because they don't care about us but as you know after you lose a child your life changes.

They lost their young son to suicide, he was in the 8th grade. I immediately flew to Chicago to be with them. When I came home from that trip I had bought her a music box with the song "Wind Beneath My Wings" which is what she played for him at his funeral. I also included a handkerchief and told her that it was for her tears. I shared their story here, that is where it all began but I never knew how to get a handkerchief out to people until God gave me the insight when I started my blog Just Breathe.

In there Christmas note to us we found out that our dear friend, her husband, had a torn aorta back in February which almost killed him. This happened two weeks prior to the 10 year anniversary of their sons death. They say that 80% of the people die from this, he survived and the nurses called him a miracle. Also in their letter, something I didn't know about was that they also had twin granddaughters in September. My heart was thrilled with this news but heavy with my own wants. They were 9 1/2 weeks early, they have thrived and survived.

Then today I received a very sad but beautifully written email from a woman who lost her 24 year old son, he had taken his own life. They were celebrating their first Christmas without him and it hit me hard. She does feel blessed to know that he is in heaven and that she will be with him again. Please send her some love at Joyful Noise for a Joyful Life.

I know that God brings people into our lives when we need them and when they need us. The Christmas Eve Service, the emails I received that touched my heart, the letter from our dear friends in Chicago are all examples of Gods timing. I think of my friends in Chicago and how blessed they are now to have their two little granddaughters who are bringing joy into their lives yet I know from her letter that the pain of losing their son is ever present in their daily lives and she said it just keeps getting stronger as time goes on. This is just so sad and my heart breaks for all of the parents in our world who have to live with this pain forever in their hearts. I believe that God has a special surprise for all of you when you meet your children in Heaven. You can not live your life with so much pain and not be rewarded for it! (that is just my feeling)

I pray that all of you are blessed with happiness beyond measure for the New Year. I pray that your dreams/desires can be realized. I pray that you can feel what it's like to be blessed with your rainbow baby like so many have had this year. I want to point out Ashley at A Ruby Family who was blessed with her rainbow baby Christopher Charles this December and what this Christmas meant to her. She lost her son Nolan on June 11, 2009 and lost her brother Charles on July 13, 2010. I pray her happiness for you. ((HUGS))

Happy New Year

With all my love,

P.S. If you are in need of a handkerchief for yourself or someone you know who lost their baby/child please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com

MY DEAR FRIENDS

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PLEASE JOIN ME ON SUNDAY AT 7PM

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Keeping every parent who has lost a child in my prayers,

holding you close in my heart today and everyday. ((HUGS))

THE COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS

Supporting Family After a Child Dies

ALWAYS IN MY PRAYERS

2010-11-08T07:28:00.000-08:00

As we approach the season of celebrations I will be praying for you

and holding you close in my heart.

If you are in need of a handkerchief to catch your tears please send me an email. Please include your full name, address, brief description of your angel and if you have a blog I can follow. If you are requesting one for a friend or someone you love please include the above information and some information on yourself. The more information I have the more connected I feel. Please know that I care and wish I could do more for the grieving parents in our world. dpucci9972@gmail.com

Love,

GOOD SAMARITAN AWARD

2010-10-25T09:07:00.000-07:00

Just when your feeling a little down or a little overwhelmed with things that are going on in your life you get a surprise that brings a smile to your heart. Something that makes you remember why you do what you do. Anne at Harveys World - Remember to Breathe gave me The Good Samaritan award and wrote a sweet post about me. Thank you Anne I am honored to receive this from you. Please go over and meet Anne sending her your love.

I am going to pass this award on and I have chosen two people to pass this special honor on to. (I don't actually have an award) The first person I pass this award on to is my friend IRL Kendra at The Adventures of the Headless Family. I had just started my blog Just Breathe and she sent people to me which was a big blessing but most important is that she told me about a little girl named Maddie who passed away. My dream of giving handkerchiefs out to grieving parents actually became a reality when I realized that I might be able to do this through a blog. I was very naive and didn't know anything about the world of baby lost mothers. From reading Heather's posts on The Spohrs Are Multiplying and heading on over to people who left comments God touched my heart in a way I never dreamed of.

These are the reasons I am here today and I thank God for the way he weaves people into our lives.

I'M HERE FOR YOU

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If you are in need of a handkerchief to catch your tears please send me an email with your name, address, blog if you have one and a little information on your loss. dpucci9972@gmail.com

If you know someone who has lost their precious child (no matter the age) please feel free to request one for them. I would need the same information that I listed above.

I hold all of you close in my heart. I pray each day for your comfort and strength. {{HUGS}}

Love,

P.S. In case you missed it Amy at The Smith Family Story won the giveaway to Mama Mia.
(I will be out of town next week but I will be checking my emails)

WINNER OF THE GIVEAWAY

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We have a winner for the Wave of Light Giveaway.

Amy at The Smith Family Story is the winner of the random drawing for a $30. gift certificate to Mama Mia Custom Hand Stamped Jewelry. Amy lost her son Levi on 4/30/09 who was stillborn. Levi's older brother Aidan turned 3 in January and on October 2, 2010 Amy was blessed with her precious rainbow Quinn. Please stop over to Congratulate Amy and meet her family.

CONGRATULATIONS AMY!

Enjoy shopping.

WAVE OF LIGHT TONIGHT (+GIVEAWAY)

2010-10-15T00:00:00.000-07:00

Remembering Our Babies

I am having a giveaway for a $30. gift certificate to Mama Mia Custom Made Stamped Jewelry by Tina. All you need to do is leave a comment here to be entered in the giveaway.

Tina would like to offer a 15% discount to all those who would like to place an order until October 18th. Just enter For Your Tears in message to seller when checking out and she will issue a refund via Paypal.

You are all in my thoughts and prayers. May God bless you with comfort, strength and hope.

I had two visits from Butterflies this week and thought about your babies.

If you or anyone you know is in need of a handkerchief to catch your tears please send me an email at dpucci9972@gmail.com

WITH LOVE

2010-10-12T17:47:00.000-07:00

Please go over and check outWith Love Care Packages.

If you don't know Franchesca at My Heart Song you should check out all the wonderful things that she is doing for baby lost mothers. She lost her Jenna Belle in May of 2009. There is the Small Bird Studios for custom blog designs and Abiding Hope Collages plus Abiding Hope Memory Boxes. You can also head over and meet her son who was born in May 2010 at Rainbow Diaries.

I am very excited about the With Love Care Packages and I have made a donation of handkerchiefs (not embroidered) to this project. It does my heart good to help when I can. There are several people who have made donations and are involved with this project. If you go here you can find out who they are and send them some love or you can find out how to send a donation to help with this ministry.

Love,

Debby

If you are a baby lost mother and would like a handkerchief to catch your tears please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com or if you would like one mailed to a friend/relative who lost a child please let me know. I would need the full name, address, brief description of who passed away and a blog link if you have one.

IN HEAVEN WITH HER BABIES

2010-10-12T00:00:00.000-07:00

Leslie Joy Evans

I have a strong desire in my heart to share this with you. Pain and sadness comes in many forms and this one is extremely sad. I came across this last week but I don't remember whose blog I read it on.(sorry) I pray you have time to read a few of the posts I am going to share with you.

Leslie married Mark in 2009. (His wife had passed away two year earlier) Mark has three children from his first marriage who Leslie loved deeply but wanted to also have a child of her own. She became pregnant with twins. Her water broke at 19 weeks and two week later on September 26, 2010 she gave birth to her daughter and son who did not survive. The first link will explain what happened after that. Leslie passed away on October 7, 2010 joining her children in Heaven. The service for Leslie and her twins is today, please keep her family in your prayers.

More Kids

During The Week

Prayer and Praise
Gone Home

Obituary

Leslie loved to sing and the two songs in this Memorial Video are sung by her.

Here is the link to the blog that was set up by Michelle for Leslie Joy Evans. Please feel free to go over and send your love. Leslie was only 28 years old and had her whole life ahead of her and was looking forward to having her babies. My heart goes out to her family.

SOMEWHERE OVER THE RAINBOW

2010-10-08T18:35:00.000-07:00

I have mentioned this before but when I started this blog I was very naive to the amount of babies who pass away each year. I was wondering where have I been living all these years not to know about this. I am thankful that God touched me with the compassion I have for all of you.

So when I started this blog mailing out handkerchiefs I knew that I needed a booklet to write down the addresses and the information I collected on each person I mailed a handkerchief to. I looked to see what I had in my supply of things that I often buy just because I fall in love with it. I have had this spiral book on my desk for 16 months now and it is always opened to the current page I am writing in. The other day I was looking through the book and I had closed it and hadn't even realized how fitting this book is.

I know why I bought the book but at the time I wasn't even doing this ministry. I bought the book because it had words on it from a favorite song of mine "Somewhere Over The Rainbow." We played this song at my mothers funeral 28 years ago. Actually there is a song from Meet Joe Black sung by Israel Kamakawiwo'ole where it is mixed with "What A Wonderful World" my most favorite song.

When I saw it I thought that the words were very fitting for the dreams of the rainbow baby in every ones hearts. I always go back into my book when I find out that one of you are pregnant and go back again to write down the name and birth date of those rainbow babies. I have marked close to 28 of them in my booklet. I know that you will never stop loving/missing the baby you have lost, but I do believe that you see some blue skies and the dreams that you dared to dream really can come true. Praying this prayer for all the baby lost mothers.

If you would like a handkerchief for yourself or would like to have one mailed for a friend please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com If you could include the full name, address and blog link if you have one that would be appreciated. Take care and God bless.

Love,

ONE LOVELY BLOG AWARD

2010-10-04T00:00:00.000-07:00

I have received this lovely award from Shandrea at Loving My Angels. Thank you for thinking of me and honoring me with this award. Please head on over to meet Shandrea and send her your love. With great sadness I have mailed her more then one handkerchief.

I also received this award from Franchesca at My Heart Song. Thank you so much for thinking of me.

And now for the rules:
Accept the award and post it on your blog with the name of the person who has granted the award and his/her blog link. Pay it forward to 10 other bloggers that you have newly discovered. Contact those blog owners and let them know they have been chosen.

I am going to pass this award on to some of the newest BLM who have come into my life and I am sure they would love it if you stopped over to give them support.

Brittani at Rylan Jayce's Mommy

Shelby at Angel Kisses in Raindrops ')i('

Amber at Eli Sends Me Butterflies

Laura at Virginia's Story
Desiree at Journey to Motherhood
Jamilyn at A Grieving Mothers Journey

Melissa at Amelia Grace Lorang

Sara at Reflections of a Butterfly

Ashley at Our lil' Batman

Kim at Peace of My Heart

There are several others along with these 10 that I have mailed handkerchiefs to but they do not have blogs to send you to. Please keep them in your prayers.

If you want to request a handkerchief for yourself or someone you know please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com . Keeping all of you in my prayers. Please feel free to post my button on your blog.

RAINBOW BABIES

2010-09-22T14:28:00.000-07:00

As I follow my baby lost mothers I am always excited when one of them has their rainbow baby. It fills my heart with happiness. There have been so many over the last few months who have given birth to beautiful healthy rainbows. CONGRATULATIONS to all of you.

For those of you who are pregnant with your rainbow baby I pray to God for perfection. May your blessing from God arrive safely into your loving arms.

For those who are praying for their day to come I want you to know that I pray each day for God to bless you with a full term pregnancy. I will never give up on that prayer. ((HUGS))

I will be having a giveaway of jewelry from Mama Mia on October 15th for Remembering Our Babies with the Wave of Light on Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day so please come back and visit.

If you would like to request a handkerchief for yourself or if you would like to request a handkerchief for someone you know please send me an email at dpucci9972@gmail.com

I will need a full name with an address, some information on who passed and if there is a blog that I can visit. Take care and God bless.

WITH ALL MY LOVE,

BLESSING YOUR ANGELS

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My friend Kristin Corlett photographed this angel.

Isn't she beautiful. Feel free to visit Kristin at The Goat.

She is an amazing photographer.

Keeping each baby lost mother in my prayers, praying for your comfort and strength. I also pray for your angels in heaven who are in God's care.

If you or someone you know is in need of a Handkerchief to catch their tears please send me an email at dpucci9972@gmail.com. I will need their full name, address, information on who passed away and if there is a blog available for me to visit with them.

I WON A BEAUTIFUL GIFT

2010-08-07T15:48:00.000-07:00

Jill at Footprints On Our Hearts had a contest in July for her 100th post and I won. I had mixed feelings about accepting the gift card to Mama Mia but Jill made me feel worthy of taking it. I ordered the Two Layers Of Love and had the names of my blogs put on them. Blogging has changed my life.

I enjoy sharing my everyday life over at Just Breathe but as you know this blog has my heart and now I will be wearing it close to my heart. I am most excited about people asking my what my necklace means and I will be able to share the importance of giving love to baby lost mothers and others who have lost children. There is no greater pain and I want people to know how to help, what they can do to help your heart.

I meet Jill around late September 2009 when I mailed her a handkerchief to catch her tears. She lost Chase on 8-12-09 and Emma on 8-16-09.

Click here to visit her on Etsy.

My beautiful piece was made by Tina from Living Without Sophia and Ellie. She lost Sophia and Ellie on April 25th, 2009. Tina was the third handkerchief that I mailed out from this blog. I have mailed out over 233 since then. Tina welcomed her Rainbow Baby Gigi on June 2, 2010.I plan on having a giveaway in October for your chance to win a beautiful piece from Tina.

If you or anyone you know is in need of a handkerchief to catch your tears please send me and email at dpucci9972@gmail.com .

Take care and God Bless,

Debby

ALWAYS IN MY HEART

2010-07-23T21:40:00.000-07:00

I have been thinking allot about all of the babylost mothers that I have meet over the last year. I think about you often, praying for your comfort and strength. I just wanted to tell you that you are always on my mind and in my heart. If there is anything I can do to help you please let me know.

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If you or someone you know is in need of a handkerchief please let me know so I can get one in the mail to catch their tears. Please email me with their/your full name, address, blog if there is one and a brief description of who passed. Please know that I care. dpucci9972@gmail.com

Sincerely,

IT DID MY HEART GOOD AND HOPEFULLY HERS TOO

2010-07-09T16:09:00.000-07:00

I had the opportunity of meeting a baby lost mother in person while I have been here in Florida helping my father. When I spent my first week here with him he was in a rehab center. So I would sit with him each day. One day they held a session for my dad and I to teach me how I could help him when he got home. We were talking with two of the therapists and I was telling them about this blog. As it turned out one of the other ladies overheard our conversation. Her name is Jodi and she is a baby lost mother. She went over and visited with my father, giving him her phone number for me to call.

I have to admit I was a little nervous. I love what I do here but I actually haven't talked with any of you in person face to face. I was wondering if I would be able to do that and also I was thinking that I am in no position to actually council anyone. Don't get me wrong, I am great in these situations and I do love to talk to people who are grieving but it has always been on my terms. Like when someone would come into the store I use to work at and be looking for a sympathy gift. I would have no problem asking what happened, who had passed and how I could help. Actually I once ran out to my car to get a handkerchief (not these like I do now, just floral ones from Penney's that I use to buy) give them a hug and say "This is for your tears."

I didn't call but I did plan on seeing her before my dad was released. With handkerchief in hand I was able to give one to her, hug her and spend time talking with her. It was a perfect meeting and I love when God gives us these opportunities. She lost her daughter five years ago. She was born still and was alive only an hour earlier inside of her. We talked about blogging and I told her that she should start one and I gave her some blogs to check out. Hopefully one day I will hear from Jodi and I will be able to pass her blog on for you to visit.

~There are no coincidences just Godincidences~

If you or anyone you know is in need of a handkerchief to catch each tear that falls please send me an email at dpucci9972@gmail.com If you want to include information I would need the full name, address, some information on who passed and a blog link if there is one available.

Take care and God Bless.

ONE YEAR

2010-06-21T00:00:00.001-07:00

1. Now faith is being sure of what we hope for

and certain of what we do not see.

Faith is not easy but I personally don't know how I would survive living on Earth without it. As the years pass my faith gets stronger. Do I ever question God ~ of course I do! Actually I have a long list of questions for God since I started For Your Tears. My desire is to get them answered and be able to give you all the answers you so desperately want.

Today this blog is a year old. God placed this idea in my heart in April of last year and I was able to start sending out handkerchiefs within about 8 weeks. Have I learned anything in this year? I have learned that our world is full of grieving parents and no matter what we do we cannot heal their hearts. Sadness overwhelms me at times, my heart is heavy with their sorrow. I put my faith in God, in His word and knowing that they will be with their babies for eternity comforts me.

Thank you for trusting me with your addresses. I am here for you and I pray for you each day. ((HUGS))

With all my heart,

P.S. I do know that many question putting their faith in God and I understand that. These are the feelings in my heart and if I have offended anyone please accept my apology.

FORUM FOR GRIEVING DADS

2010-06-17T16:19:00.000-07:00

Nan & Mike over at The Reiber's - Remembering Our Triplet Angels are looking for your help. If your husband or someone you know is a grieving father please let them know about the Forum for Grieving Dads.

KEEPING YOU IN MY HEART

2010-06-01T00:00:00.000-07:00

If this is your first visit to For Your Tears I would like to thank you for stopping over. On the 21st of June it will be one year ago that I started this ministry. I started by coming across some blogs of women who had lost their baby and leaving them a comment asking them if I could mail them a handkerchief. From their blog I would visit women who had left them comments and I would do the same thing. Little by little getting my handkerchiefs out to catch each tear that falls.

I didn't know if I would actually be able to get my idea to work. I am so proud of how this has come together and extremely pleased how it turned out. My concern was getting so big that I would have to stop for financial reasons but this has flowed very smoothing and in a way that I am able to handle. It is small and personal which is actually perfect. Thank you God for giving me the heart and letting my blog grow in a manner that I can handle. I have mailed out over 220 handkerchiefs which would come down to a little over 4 handkerchiefs a week.

I think the hardest thing for me obviously is all the sadness in our world and the fact that so many babies must die each year. We are living in a world with too many hearts filled with sadness. I wish I could give one to every women in our world but that just isn't possible. I have not had to turn anyone away and I pray that it continues to stay at this level of service from me.

If you or anyone you know is in need of a handkerchief I would love to hear from you. You can leave me a comment if your link is available or send me an email at dpucci9972@gmail.com . I think the hardest part for me now is that I can't visit each person on a regular basis as the numbers have grown. I do try to visit when I can and the best part is when I see one of my baby lost mothers have their perfect little rainbow baby. I know that it doesn't ease the pain in their heart but they sure do make life a little happier. Always praying for each of the ladies I have sent a handkerchief to and keeping them in my heart.

Take care and God bless,

TO CATCH EACH TEAR

2010-05-13T00:00:00.000-07:00

If you are interested in receiving a handkerchief to catch your tears please let me know. If you have lost your precious baby or child I would love for you to have one. I want you to know that I am sorry for your loss. I would love to know who you are so I can keep you in my prayers. I will always pray for your comfort and strength, holding you in my heart during your journey through grief.

If you know someone who has lost a child and you would like them to have my gift of a handkerchief please let me know.

My email address is dpucci9972@gmail.com . I would like to know if there is a blog I can follow and a brief discription of what happened. I will need the full name and address so I can place the handkerchief in the mail.

Take care and God bless,

SHE KNOWS YOUR HEART

2010-05-10T08:16:00.000-07:00

Have you meet Heather from In The Storm and her precious angel Madelyn. Each link has a story for you to read so please take some time to meet her by clicking on the links. When I was going through my reader on Mother's Day I came across a link to Heather's other blog where she makes a pendant for the grieving mother with their precious angels face on it. I was so impressed.

Last year I was introduced to Etsy and became very excited when I came across the sites who were making little square pendant necklaces. I can't even count how many I bought for myself and friends for gifts. When I saw Heather's blog I actually cried. What a wonderful way to hold your precious child close to your heart. I went right over and made a donation. I know where her heart is and I support her dream. These are Heather's words:

"I am a mother to a beautiful baby girl in heaven, Madelyn Rebecca. In honor of Madelyn, I have decided to create these photo pendants as a gift to those who also know the pain of losing a child."

So many grieving parents have come up with wonderful ideas to give to a mother who has lost her baby. There are many links at the bottom of this page for you to check out. Heather also has a page with so many links and resources for you so please check it out.

You can click on the above button or here to visit In Our Hearts Pendants.

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY

2010-05-09T00:00:00.000-07:00

I know that Mother's Day is one of the hardest days of the year for mother's who have lost a baby or child. (Besides their precious angels birthday) Each day is hard but some are really gut wrenching. I want each of you to know how sorry I am for your sorrow.

I have a hard time on Mother's Day too but for a different reason. My mother passed away in March 28 years ago. I was only 30 at the time and my youngest was only 10 months old. (nine months later my husband left me) Truthfully I have never been into Mother's Day that much after that. This may seem strange to you but I actually had my x-husband take the kids on Mother's Day each year, that was my gift to me. If you want to see a picture of my mom I have one posted on my other blog today.

We have all lost people in our lives that we loved, things that make us sad, things that make us want to curl up and hide from the world, but I know in my heart that nothing can compare to the loss of a child. If you can get out of bed each day I admire your strength and you are my hero.

~Happy Mother's Day~

Keeping you forever in my prayers,

If you our someone you know is in need of a handkerchief please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com .

INTERNATIONAL BABYLOST MOTHERS DAY

2010-05-02T00:00:00.000-07:00

For all the babylost mothers,

you are in my thoughts and prayers today.

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I just love when I see the rays of the sun spreading out behind a cloud. It always reminds me of God in heaven and the promise of life ever after.

If you or someone you know is in need of a handkerchief to catch each tear that falls please let me know. I would like to know if there is a blog I can visit, I will need the full name, address and a brief description of what happened. You can email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com

If you need help with caring for someone who has just lost a loved one please click on the "How To Provide Support" link under the header on this page.

Take care and God bless,

WELCOME TO FOR YOUR TEARS

2010-04-09T00:00:00.000-07:00

If you are visiting today from Just Breathe thank you for stopping over. I am very proud of my ministry here. (As of today I have sent out 190 handkerchiefs) The heart of the grieving mother is deep with sorrow. Not only does she have horrific pain from her loss but so often these woman are also suffering from the loss of their connection with their family & friends. People just don't know how to help or what to say so they tend to stay away. This is something that I would love the world to know (what you can do to help them through their grief) so today I am posting this list in hopes that I can touch the hearts of a few more people who will understand and be prepared to help the grieving parent.

The following suggestions may help you provide that support:

— Don’t try to find magic words that will take away the pain. There are not any. A hug, a touch, and a simple, “I’m so sorry,” offer real comfort and support.

— Don’t be afraid to cry. Your tears are a tribute to both child and parents. Yes, the parents may cry with you, but their tears can be a healthy release.

— Avoid saying, “I know how you feel.” It is very difficult to comprehend the depth of the loss when a child dies, and to say you do may seem presumptuous to the parents.

— Avoid using “It was God’s will” and other cliche's that attempt to minimize or explain the death. Don’t try to find something positive in the child’s death, such as, “At least you have other children.” There are no words that make it all right that their child has died.

— Listen! Let them express the anger, the questions, the pain, the disbelief, and the guilt they may be experiencing. Understand that parents often have a need to talk about their child and the circumstances of the death over and over again. It may be helpful to encourage them to talk by asking a gentle question such as, “Can you tell me about it?”

— Avoid judgments of any kind. “You should . . .” or “You shouldn't . . .” is not appropriate or helpful. Decisions and behaviors related to displaying or removing photographs, reliving the death, idealizing the child, or expressing anger, depression, or guilt may appear extreme in many cases. These behavior patterns are normal, particularly in the first years following the child’s death.

— Be aware that, for parents with religious convictions, their child’s death may raise serious questions about God’s role in this event. Do not presume to offer answers. If the parents raise the issue, it would be better to listen and allow them to explore their own feelings. They will need to arrive at an individual philosophy about this.

— Be there. Run errands, help with household chores, provide child care, and help in whatever way is needed. Don’t say, “Call me if there is anything I can do.” That call will probably never come. Be aware of what needs to be done and offer to do specific tasks.

— Give special attention to surviving children. They are hurt, confused, and often ignored. Don’t assume they are not hurting because they do not express their feelings. Many times siblings will suppress their grief to avoid adding to their parents’ pain. Talk to them and acknowledge their loss.

— Mention the name of the child who has died. Don’t fear that talking about the child will cause the parents additional pain. The opposite is usually true. Using the child’s name lets parents know that they are not alone in remembering their child.

— Be patient. Understand that grieving family members respond differently to their pain. Some verbalize, others may seem unable or unwilling to talk, some withdraw, and others strike out angrily.

— Sharing fond memories of the child through statements such as “I remember when she . . .” or “He had a wonderful gift for . . .” can be reassuring to parents and show that you appreciated their child and are aware of their sense of loss. Relate amusing anecdotes about the child. Don’t be afraid of laughter. It helps to heal the hurt.

— Remember the family on important days such as the child’s birthday and death anniversaries. Send a card, call, or visit. Let them know you remember, too.

— Gently encourage a return to outside activities. Suggest a lunch or movie as relief from the isolation of grief. If your invitation is declined, don’t give up! Ask again and again, if necessary. The third or fourth time you call may be just the day that an outing would be welcome if someone took the initiative.

— There is no standard timetable for recovery. Grief usually lasts far longer than anyone expects. Encourage bereaved families to be patient with themselves. They often hear, “Get on with your life; it’s time you got over this!” Those demands are unfair and unrealistic. When parents express concern about being tired, depressed, angry, tearful, unable to concentrate, or are unwilling to get back into life’s routines, reassure them that grief work takes time and that they may be expecting too much of themselves too soon.

— Be sensitive to the changes a bereaved family experiences. Family members will adopt new behaviors and roles as they learn to live without the child. This is a painful and lengthy process. Don’t expect your friends to be unchanged by this experience.

— Refer a grieving family to The Compassionate Friends. Many types of support are available, both online (www.compassionatefriends.org) and through the nearly 600 TCF chapters in the United States which are ready to offer friendship, understanding, and hope to bereaved families. Call the TCF National Office toll-free at 877-969-0010 for chapter referral information and to request a no-charge customized bereavement packet.

— Continue your contact with the family. Grief does not end at the funeral or on the first anniversary. Stay in touch often, and in conversation, as easily as you would mention any other member of the family, don’t forget to mention the name of the child who died.

Other information is available at THE COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS so feel free to go over and read more.

P.S. Please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com if you are in need of a handkerchief for yourself or someone you know. Take care and God bless.

EASTER BLESSING

2010-04-04T00:00:00.000-07:00

If you or someone you know is in need of a handkerchief please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com

Dear God:

2010-03-26T15:30:00.000-07:00

Dear God:
The lady reading this
Is
Beautiful, classy and
Strong, and I love her.
Help her live her
Life to the fullest.
Please promote her and
Cause her to excel above
Her expectations.
Help her shine in the
Darkest places where it is
Impossible to love.
Protect her at all times,
Lift her up when
She needs You the most,
And
Let her know when she
Walks with You,
She will
Always be safe..

(Author unknown to me)

I thought this was beautiful and I pray that God will always hold you close.

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If you or anyone you know is in need of a handkerchief to catch their tears please send me an email at dpucci9972@gmail.com. I will need the full name, address, brief description of the child who passed and if their is a blog I can link to. Take care and God Bless.

Debby

IF ONLY HEAVEN COULD WAIT

2010-03-14T23:55:00.000-07:00

I have mailed out over 175 handkerchiefs to grieving parents since I started this blog last June. I take pleasure in being able to mail these to catch the tears that fall but the circumstances are beyond sad. I will always continue to pray for the comfort and strength of a grieving parent.

After Christmas I purchased 200 more handkerchiefs and have had them embroidered. I wanted to say thank you to those who have sent donations to me. I have collected to date $220. and when I went to pick them up at the embroidery shop I used this money to help with the costs. So please know that when I mail out a handkerchief that you helped to provide the stitches that say "For Your Tears" and that should make you feel good inside.

I want to thank everyone who has my button up on your blog. It does my heart heart good to see them on the blogs I visit. I had an invitation to be featured on Wellsphere but have decided to stay with our close knit circle for now. If I were to get more requests I would most likely get to busy, it would become to costly and I would lose the one on one connection that I feel with each handkerchief I mail out. Don't get me wrong, I would love to be able to put these in doctor's offices and in hospitals across the country to catch each tear but that is a tall order to fill.

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If you or someone you know is in need of a handkerchief please send me an email at: dpucci9972@gmail.com

Show Us Your Life - Favorite Charity

2010-03-13T08:04:00.000-08:00

I decided to join in at Kelly's Korner today to share my favorite charity. I just wanted you to know that I am here if you need me. I will tell you that I have given donations to The March of Dimes on many blogs since I started blogging so I would have to say that they are my favorite charity. I was so naive about baby loss and I am thankful that God placed this in my heart.

SAYING GOODBYE

2010-02-20T13:04:00.000-08:00

When I looks at this picture I see things the way they should be. This to me is how life should end. A person in their late 60's or 70's should be holding the hand of their parent on their deathbed. Reading blogs everyday, blogs written by baby lost mothers, we see a different picture. We see the tiny hand of a baby wrapped around the finger of their parent. A parent who had to say goodbye way to soon. It is so sad and it makes my heart so heavy with sorrow. To all of you I want to say "I am so sorry for your loss." Your lives have been forever changed and it just isn't fair.

I may have mentioned this before but 10 years ago in February a dear friend of mine lost her son. He wasn't a baby, he was a teenager. I flew to Chicago to be with her and her family. This family was loved by so many. The night of the wake people were lined up from the viewing room all they way out the front doors and wrapped around the building. It was like this the entire night. The viewing room was lined with flowers and my heart was filled with sadness. The next day the church was filled beyond capacity. At the cemetery, watching them say goodbye to their son was heartbreaking for me. They picked the most beautiful spot to put him. They bought 3 and placed him in the middle where they would join him later on each side. In front of this spot were two trees leaning opposite each other looking like a goal post. Their son loved football and had just signed up for it at the H.S. which he would be attending the next year.

The parents had decided not to have a luncheon after the funeral. They did not want to go somewhere and celebrate. Well Eric's aunts and uncles thought that there should be a luncheon so they put one together which would follow the service. It was a beautiful luncheon and as it turned out, it was appreciated by his parents. Their is something that happened at this luncheon that has always stayed in my heart and it has always been my inspiration for hope after tragedy. Someone was talking to her about her son, sharing a funny story and she laughed. That laugh was the most beautiful music to my heart.

When I returned home I knew that I needed to do more. This family loved the outdoors so we bought trees in a forest at Mammoth Lakes, CA in his honor. We actually visited the sight last summer and the sign is still up with his name on it. I also mailed them some stamps to help them mail out all the thank you notes. Then I found a beautiful music box which played "The Wind Beneath My Wings" which was played at the service in church. He was the youngest son of 3. With the music box I sent a handkerchief with a note saying "This is for your tears." I recently sent her one of the handkerchiefs I now send out with a note telling her how this is where the inspiration came from for this blog.

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If you or someone you know is in need of a handkerchief to catch your tears please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com . I would like to know the full name, address, if there is a blog I can visit and some details as to what happened. Take care and God Bless. Debby

2010-02-11T15:46:00.000-08:00

I read this story today written by Kelle at Enjoying the Small Things which I want to share with you. I couldn't stop reading it. It is the story of her daughter Nella Cordelia: A Birth Story. My friend IRL Headless Mom shared this with me in my reader. It is a beautifully written story filled with anticipation, tears, honesty, more tears and love.

I do understand that many of you who stop here will not want to read a birth story and I don't mean to hurt any ones feeling.

GIVING YOU MY HEART

2010-02-03T16:02:00.000-08:00

If you are in need of a handkerchief to catch your tears please send me an email with your full name, address and blog link if you have one. If you could share some details of your loss I would appreciate that. I am so sorry for your loss and this journey you must walk that you did not choose. Walk with God, He will help you. My heart is heavy with your sorrow and if there is anything else I can do to help you please let me know. There are resources at the bottom of this page if you are seeking help. Also please go over and visit women on my blog roll who are all wonderful women who have been where you are and they have knitted a beautiful blanket of compassion for each other helping to hold each other up.

If you know of someone who recently lost a child please email me their full name, address, brief description of what happened and a blog if they have one (and yours). There are no restrictions. It doesn't matter the age of the child, every child is the baby of the mother who lost them. I pray to God to give comfort and strength to those who have lost their child. My heart is yours and I hurt for you. No one should ever have to bury their child. Take care and God bless.

Sincerely,

Debby

SWEET LITTLE ANGELS IN HEAVEN

2010-01-13T19:15:00.000-08:00

If you are in need of a handkerchief to catch your tears please send me an email with your fill name, address and blog link if you have one. If you could share some details of your loss I would appreciate that. I am so sorry for your loss and this journey you must walk that you did not choose. Walk with God, He will help you. My heart is heavy with your sorrow and if there is anything else I can do to help you please let me know. There are resources at the bottom of this page if you are seeking help. Also please go over and visit women on my blog roll who are all wonderful women who have been where you are and they have knitted a beautiful blanket of compassion for each other helping to hold each other up.

If you know of someone who recently lost a child please email me their full name, address, brief description of what happened and a blog if they have one (and yours). There are no restrictions. It doesn't matter the age of the child, every child is the baby of the mother who lost them. I pray to God to give comfort and strength to those who have lost their child. My heart is yours and I hurt for you. No one should ever have to bury their child. Take care and God bless.

Sincerely,

Debby

dpucci9972@gmail.com

I came across the above picture and I thought it was so beautiful, baby angels in heaven at church.

BEAUTIFUL NEWS

2010-01-13T11:24:00.000-08:00

Please stop over and Congratulate Alicia at YaYa Stuff on her absolutely beautiful news. And while you are there do the happy dance with her, I did.

Romans 12:12

Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.

BEAUTIFUL BLOGGER AWARD

2010-01-10T00:01:00.000-08:00

Thank you to Mary at Our Angel Amiee for my award! Here are the rules. I am to post 7 things about myself, and pass the award along to 7 beautiful bloggers. Mary is one of the recipients of a handkerchief from For Your Tears and I love that she thought of me when passing this award on. Please go on over to her blog to read the 7 things that she remembers about her beautiful daughter Amiee. Then head on over to Just Breathe to read my 7 things about myself and the 8 people I passed this award on to.

A HUG IN YOUR HEART

2010-01-07T18:54:00.000-08:00

I want each and everyone of you to know that you are always on my mind. I continue to pray to God for your comfort, understanding and strength. I have in the last six months been extremely happy to see babies born to a few of the baby lost mothers who received a handkerchief from me. Followed along with their fears as their pregnancies progressed. I pray for your prayers to also be answered. I have never in my life seen so much heartache and pain. My heart is often heavy with your sorrow. It hasn't broken me or wanted to make me run away. What it has done is given me more faith in our God. I am and always will be amazed at the strength of a broken woman. I admire each and everyone of you. I know that your days are not easy and your burdens are heavy. I also know that God is your strength and with Him all things are possible.

The reason I say this is because I don't always have the opportunity to come and visit your blog. I often feel badly about that. As my ministry continues it may become more difficult to read each and everyone of your blogs. I have mailed out close to 140 handkerchiefs to woman who have lost a child. As the numbers increase with time (which I wish I could stop) it will become harder to follow each person. I hope you understand that I will never forget you. My plan right now is to continue to follow each of you until it becomes impossible to do so. There are many of you that I consider to be very close with and our relationship will not change. I will never stop praying for you and your families. You all mean the world to me.

I thank God each day for putting this ministry into my heart. When I see a handkerchief posted on a blog I know that I have given you a piece of my heart. This Christmas a woman in Michigan lost several family member to a horrible fire. I was able to send her a handkerchief for her tears. When I saw that she had the handkerchief next to her on an interview for her local news it touched my soul. To think that I could give you a moment of comfort makes my heart fill with joy. There was a second interview that was recently put on the news page that I would love for you to watch. Kristie is a friend of Amanda's so I will send you to her blog.

I also want you to know that I will never stop fighting to get the word out about the needs of the grieving mother.

I also want to thank the families that have sent me donations, they will be going towards my next purchase of handkerchiefs, handkerchief mailing boxes, tissue, the embroidery, stamps and other supplies.

I was looking for a picture, something with a hug from me to you and I came across the above picture and it was called "A Hug In Your Heart" and thought it was beautiful.

NEW YEAR'S BLESSING

2010-01-01T00:00:00.000-08:00

I pray that God will bless you during the New Year and continue to heal the pain within your heart. There really are no words to tell you how sorry I am for what has happened in your life. I want you to know that I care, I pray for you always and if you are in need of something please let me know.

If you or someone you know is in need of a handkerchief to catch their tears please send me an email at dpucci9972@gmail.com . I would like to have the full name, address and information on a blog if that is available. My heart is heavy with the sorrow of all mothers who have lost a child.

All my love,

Debby

TOUCHING THE HEARTS OF THOSE IN PAIN ~ ONE HEART AT A TIME

2009-12-31T07:47:00.000-08:00

I am having trouble figuring out how to post this. I don't want it to be about me but it is about the ministry that I do and I can't stop crying. Please read the story, watch the video and you will see why I am so overwhelmed with emotion. (the handkerchief that I sent to her is sitting on the table next to her during the interview)

I have a blog friend named Kristie at Kristie's Notes who posted a story on December 15, 2009 that you need to see. Please visit Kristie's blog to read about this tragic story (then watch the video) and the outpouring of love that Amanda Buckland has been shown from the community.

I can't put into words what this has done for me today ~ the last day of 2009 ~

ALL PRAISE BE TO GOD

What will forever get to me is that it is a small world. Without Kristie I would not have sent this woman a handkerchief and it would not have been seen on the local news. I love the way God works, everyday each move is in His hands.

FROM MY HEART TO YOU

2009-12-27T13:32:00.001-08:00

I HOLD EACH OF YOU CLOSE WITHIN MY HEART
I HAVE CRIED WITH YOU KNOWING YOU HAD TO PART
THE BABY YOU HELD SO CLOSE INSIDE
GIVEN TO GOD NOT YOURS TO DECIDE
BUT I KNOW THAT HE LOVES THEM YOU GAVE HIM YOUR BEST
HE IS HOLDING YOUR CHILD EMBRACED AT HIS CHEST

MAY HIS LOVE HOLD YOU TIGHT DURING THE HOLIDAY SEASON

2009-12-24T11:07:00.001-08:00

My prayers and thoughts are with all of you.

CHRISTMAS BLESSINGS

2009-12-20T08:29:00.000-08:00

We can all go about our business and have a very merry Christmas when all is well in our life but I know that is not true for millions of people in our world. Not only all the baby lost mothers but for everyone who lost someone they loved this year. I pray that you have all found God. Without our Faith in Him we have no future. Without the belief in seeing our loved ones again it would be impossible to live. I believe in God and in my eternity. (this is my opinion)

For all the Mothers and Fathers who are missing their children I know that today and everyday that they are in the arms of our Lord. I want to share a story with you, something that I questioned years ago. I became a Christian about 14 years ago. I grew up in a church but never took much to heart but I do know that God has been watching over me since the day I was born.

So I was in Bible study and had allot of questions. I shared with my group that I have always prayed for God to take me first and I wondered if I was wrong. I thought that maybe I was being selfish. I think that my prayer is a very common one but I was torn. If Heaven is so wonderful why wouldn't I want my children to live there rather then on earth where there is so much pain. Don't get me wrong, earth is a beautiful place but there is so much suffering. I really don't have a point here, I know that you want your babies/children to be here with you, I too would want the same thing. I just wanted to say that where they are is a place we all pray to be someday. It is perfection.

You are always in my prayers. I continually pray for your comfort and strength. I know that Christmas will be so hard for you and I am so sorry. Please know that I care about you.

If I have said something to offend you I am very sorry. If you think I should remove this post please let me know, I value your opinion since I am very new at this.

TO MY DEAR FRIENDS,

2009-12-08T16:22:00.000-08:00

SNOW ANGELS

2009-11-29T16:33:00.000-08:00

I have always had a love for Snow Angels. Thinking about all of you and your Angel Babies during the Holiday Season. May God bless you with comfort.

If you are someone you know is in need of a handkerchief please send me an email at dpucci9972@gmail.com.

WE ARE ALL WORTHY

2009-11-18T10:34:00.000-08:00

One Flaw In Women

Women have strengths that amaze men...
They bear hardships and they carry burdens,
but they hold happiness, love and joy.
They smile when they want to scream.
They sing when they want to cry.
They cry when they are happy
and laugh when they are nervous.
They fight for what they believe in...
They stand up to injustice.
They don't take "no" for an answer
when they believe there is a better solution.
They go without so their family can have.
They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.
They love unconditionally.
They cry when their children excel
and cheer when their friends get awards.
They are happy when they hear about
a birth or a wedding.
Their hearts break when a friend dies.
They grieve at the loss of a family member,
yet they are strong when they
think there is no strength left.
They know that a hug and a kiss
can heal a broken heart.
Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.
They'll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you
to show how much they care about you.
The heart of a woman is what
makes the world keep turning.
They bring joy, hope and love.
They have compassion and ideas.
They give moral support to their
family and friends.
Women have vital things to say
and everything to give.

HOWEVER, IF THERE IS ONE FLAW IN WOMEN,
IT IS THAT THEY FORGET THEIR WORTH.

God doesn't give you the people you want; He gives you the people you NEED.... to help you, to hurt you, to leave you, to love you and to make you into the person you were meant to be.

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I received this in an email and thought I would share it. Take care and God Bless.

FIGHT FOR PREEMIES

2009-11-13T12:31:00.000-08:00

November 17 is dedicated to raising awareness of the crisis of premature birth. The March of Dimes invites bloggers like you to get involved.

• Learn about premature birth at marchofdimes.com/fightforpreemies
• Put a badge on your blog during November, Prematurity Awareness Month®
• On November 17, blog for a baby you love and to help others

We need to fight ― because babies shouldn’t have to.

Objective:
Every year, 20 million babies are born too soon, too small and very sick ― half a million of them in the United States. November 17 is when we fight.

Do you know a baby that was born too soon, too small, unable to suck, unable to breathe on his own? Premature birth is a health crisis that jeopardizes the lives and health of nearly half-million babies each year. It is the #1 killer of newborns and can lead to lifelong disabilities. Worse: the number has increased 31 percent since 1981. It can happen without warning and for no known reason. Until we have more answers, anyone’s baby, could be born too soon.

HEAD ON OVER TO BLOGGER UNITE

Thank you Donna at Life With Amelia for the information.

If you or someone you know is in need of a Handkerchief to catch your tears please send me an email with your full name, address, blog information and a brief story behind your/their loss. dpucci9972@gmail.com

2009-11-11T12:56:00.000-08:00

Praying for Stellan - Update

2009-11-09T09:47:00.000-08:00

He is doing well, go here and read the update from his Mom.

You can follow MckMama on Twitter

2009-10-30T09:27:00.000-07:00

If you or someone you know is in need of a handkerchief to catch their tears please email me at: dpucci9972@gmail.com I will need the full name, address, blog if available and a brief description of what happened. Take care and God Bless.

Angel Baby

2009-10-29T12:17:00.000-07:00

I would love if you could go over and give Lisette and her family your love. They lost their daughter Lauren Samantha Delgado on October 26, 2009. God gave them 1 hour and 40 minutes with her.

SAMI'S BLOG

You will see Lisette's name in my listing of "Sent With Love". She requested a handkerchief in September, knowing that Sami would not survive. I didn't feel right about sending it out before Sami's birth but I honoured her wishes and sent it. I know now that her tears are being caught. If only we could do more. Please keep Lisette in your prayers.

2009-10-27T17:15:00.000-07:00

These are two of the images that they used in Naperville's 5th Annual A Walk To Remember. I just think that they are wonderful. The teardrop is so beautiful and I just love dandelions! Just thought I would share them with you. I had made a few donations to the walk. I was waiting to get my t-shirts not realizing that you were suppose to pick them up at the walk. Well Naperville is in Illinois and I'm in California. Anyway I checked on them and they are mailing them to me. (I felt so foolish)

If you or someone you know is in need of a handkerchief please let me know so we can catch each tear that falls. Please send me her full name, address, blog spot and a brief story about what happened. dpucci9972@gmail.com

GOD HEAR MY PRAYERS AND THANK YOU FOR THE ANSWERED PRAYERS

2009-10-17T11:01:00.000-07:00

As some of you know I am very new to blogging and I am still learning so much about baby loss in our world. The figures I read are astounding. Four months ago I had no idea the vast number of women and families who have lost their babies/children to miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS and other diseases that take them so early in their lives. This is the first year I have participated in the lighting of the candle on the 15th of October or even known that October was National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. It felt good to participate in burning the candle in honor of all the angels who left our earth too early. If only we could do more to heal the hearts of those who are living without them in their arms.

There are a few women I have been following who have recently given birth to a baby/babies since the loss of their other child/children and also a few who are very close to their due date. I know that the child/children that they lost is ever present in their lives daily even though they reside in Heaven and the journey of loss that they walk will never change. The new baby will never change that but oh how happy I feel inside that they now have the opportunity to have this baby/babies in their life. I pray that all the baby loss mother's will be able to have this opportunity either by giving birth themselves to a full term healthy baby, by adopting a child or by use of a surrogate. GOD HEAR MY PRAYERS

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If you or someone you know is in need of a handkerchief to catch each tear that falls please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com. Please provide me with the full name, address, description of what happened and a blog address if available. My heart is deep with sadness for all the women who are living with this sorrow.

(I also want to say that if I have said something in this post to hurt you in anyway I am truly sorry)

2009-10-16T00:00:00.000-07:00

Dear Friends,

My Dad is coming for a visit. I am very excited, he is my best friend. My Dad lives in Florida and I'm in California so I don't get to see him too often and he doesn't get to spend too much time with my kids, his grandchildren, so the time will be fully used. He is 86 and the time I spend with him is precious. I lost my Mother 27 years ago.

If you are in need of a handkerchief for yourself or request one for someone please send me an email at dpucci9972@gmail.com. I will be checking my email and want to make sure that we catch all the tears.

Sincerely,

Debby

WAVE OF LIGHT

2009-10-08T09:57:00.000-07:00

Please visit Julie at wife.mom.nurse for additional

information.

If you are in need of a handkerchief for yourself or someone who recently lost a child please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com.

BIRTHVERSE

2009-09-24T09:07:00.000-07:00

In the last few days I have come across a few blogs that mentioned Birthverse. I went over and found it to be very inspirational. Mary wrote about it yesterday and Danielle mentioned it a few days ago. I am mentioning it here today because I want to make sure that everyone gets a chance to go over and get the verse for their child/children.

Here is mine: John 10:3 NIV The watchman opens the gate for him, and the sheep listen to his voice. He calls his own sheep by name and leads them out.

You are a child of God, His treasured possession. He created you in His own image. He chose the day for you to be born. He has a plan and a purpose for your life. Cherish your birthverse.

My son:
1 Peter 1:20 NIV He was chosen before the creation of the world, but was revealed in these last times for your sake.

My daughter:
1 Thessalonians 5:18 NIV Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.

Praying that you have a pleasant day.

If you are in need of a handkerchief for yourself or someone you know please send me the full name and address plus a brief description of what happened. I would also appreciate your blog or the blog of the women you are requesting it for. dpucci9972@gmail.com I am so honored that God has given me this blessing. Take care and God Bless.

I WAS GIVEN TWO AWARDS TODAY.

2009-09-22T22:18:00.000-07:00

Award #1

Chrissy over at Bitter Sweet Moments has awarded me with two awards for this blog. One is the "Honest Scrap" award and the other is "Your Blog Is Fabulous!" Thank you so much Chrissy, I really appreciate them. So for the first award I have to list 10 honest things about myself and then pass the award on.

10 Honest Things About Myself:

I put over 700 ornaments on my Christmas Tree

I would never let my kids eat/drink in my car

I've been married twice to the same man

I was a smoker but not anymore - 1 year anniversary yesterday

I never watch the news or read the newspaper

I'm the youngest of three children

I collect Nativities

I love romance novels

I bought "The Love Dare" workbook to use on my husband but haven't started yet

I only wear Birkenstock shoes

And the awards go to
Mara at Weighty Matters
Kimert at Diaries of a Coach's Wife
Caitlin at Everything's Just Wonderful
Amy at From My Point of View
Alexis at Running Away? I'll Help You Pack

Award #2

Now I need to list five obsessions:

When I find a new favorite movie I will watch it everyday for months

Big Brother each summer is a huge obsession of mine

Collecting Christmas wrapping paper and gifts all year long

Watching All My Children Soap Opera

Handing out the large candy bars at Halloween

I think that everyone I follow has a FABULOUS BLOG so if you don't have one on your blog please take it with my permission. ENJOY AND GOD BLESS

EACH TEAR IS IMPORTANT TO ME

2009-09-21T00:00:00.000-07:00

My first post on this blog was on June 21, 2009 . I didn't even realize that it was on Father's Day until I looked at my calendar today. Here I am dedicating myself to women who have lost their children when there are just as many daddies suffering the same loss. To all the daddies out there I want to say that I am so sorry for your loss. I do have you in my prayers.

I have made so many friends along the way. Women who live life in a whole different way than I do. Women who have to hold their dear children in their hearts and not in their arms. I am in awe of them. Their sorrow is deep and often ignored by so many. I myself was very naive but I'm not anymore. I keep reading and searching for as much knowledge as I can consume so I can help them with their grief. If I could do more you know that I would. You all have taken residence in my heart. I will never give up in my quest to heal the pain in your heart. God hear my prayers.

I believe that there are different levels of grief. The loss of a pet, the loss of a dear friend, the loss of a parent, the loss of a sibling, the loss of a husband and the loss of a child. If you have children in your life I think that you will agree with me that the loss of a child is the most devastating. Our hearts love on different levels, each being equally important, just different. ( I know that my views may be different than yours so if I have offended anyone with my personal view please accept my apology)

I have been so honored to give what I can to you. I have mailed out 62 individual handkerchiefs in 63 days and it has been the best therapy I could ask for. (I also did a few bulk requests) From the thank you notes I receive, to the thank you posts that appear, I must tell you that my heart is full. All Glory Given To God

Please remember to email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com if you know someone who is in need of a handkerchief to catch all their tears. I need their full name, address, brief description of their Angel, your blog and their blog if available. May God bless each and everyone of you.

WILL YOU JOIN ME

2009-09-20T07:47:00.000-07:00

I just want to lift Mirne and Craig up in prayer. It would be wonderful if everyone could say a prayer for them. Their burden is so heavy. If you don't know, their 3rd child Jet passed away after 3 days here on earth. This is the third baby who has left them to become an angel in Heaven. Pray for their comfort during this horrific time in their life. There is a beautiful video "Candles for Jet..." over at All The Little Ponies. If you have some time today please go over and watch it.

2009-09-19T10:10:00.001-07:00

I have decided to do a very small post for a blog friend of mine. She was thinking of going back to work to help pay off their bills but has had so many people comment on some of her homemade items that she has decided to try selling them to help out the family budget. That way she can stay home with her son Aidan. Being with her son is very important right now. She lost her son Levi Craig just before his birth in April of this year. You can find Amy here and at her new blog Amy's Handmade Creations where she is selling the cutest items. Have a blessed weekend.

THIS IS WHERE MY HEART RESIDES

2009-09-18T10:46:00.000-07:00

So I am doing my regular reading of posts this morning and I was reading a post by Holly at Empty Arms about Naperville's A Walk To Remember. She was asking for her blog followers to go over and support this walk. This Walk To Remember is in support of all families who have lost a child through miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal loss. I am always amazed at where God will take me on any given day. I use to live in that area. Right before my husband and I got married we purchased a townhouse for us to live in after our wedding. This townhouse was in Bolingbrook, IL right next door to Naperville, IL. I shopped in Naperville all the time. I want to say it's a small world but I feel it's a big world when you have God at your side. Go on over and make a donation in your childs name. It can be as little as $5.00. Take care and God Bless.

Special Event: Share Walk to Remember, Naperville Riverwalk, Saturday, October 17, 2009. Funds raised will be applied toward the development of the Wings of Hope Angel Garden at Edward Hospital and the Edward Foundation SHARE Program.

FRIENDSHIP AWARD

2009-09-16T17:43:00.000-07:00

Thank you Nancy over at The Reiber's - Remembering Our Triplet Angels for passing this wonderful Friendship Award to me. Thank you so much, I am truly honored.

This award is bestowed on to blogs that are exceedingly charming. These kind bloggers aim to find and be friends. They are not interested in self-aggrandizement. Our hope is that when the ribbons of these prizes are cut, even more friendships are propagated. Please give more attention to these writers. Deliver this award to six bloggers who must choose six more and include this cleverly-written text into the body of their award.

Holly over at Caring for Carleigh
Michelle over at You Are My Sunshine
Christina over at Pooh's Corner
Lea over at Angel Wings Memorial Boutique
Kat over at Heart 2 Heart
Kristy over at I love you to the moon and back!

So enjoy ladies, you are all very special to me and very deserving of this award.

TO CATCH EACH TEAR

2009-09-11T16:31:00.001-07:00

I am forever going to be grateful to God for placing this ministry into my heart. It was hidden away for many years and once he pointed it out to me it was just a matter of six weeks for me to get it all together, to have a plan. A plan that I am so proud of and so thankful to be doing. I have received so many kind words of appreciation that I often find myself crying, not feeling worthy of the praise. All praise be to God. I have never been very good at receiving compliments. So thank you for all the kind words. I am always saddened by the circumstances that has me sending these handkerchiefs out but I love doing my part in sending these to women during their unbelievable sorrow. My plan is to do this for as long as I can.

It has been my honor to send these out to over 50 women and I would love to be able to touch even more of the women in our world. If you haven't yet, please grab my button for your blog. You can request a handkerchief for yourself or for someone you know who is grieving so we can catch their tears. Feel free to email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com . Please send me the full name and address along with a brief description of the child who has passed. Also if there is a blog spot I can go to I would appreciate that information to. If you are requesting this for someone else, please send me your blog spot too if you have one. Take care and God Bless.

2009-09-03T07:56:00.000-07:00

TODAY I PRAY FOR ALL THE ANGEL BABIES IN HEAVEN
TODAY I PRAY FOR PEACE AND COMFORT FOR THEIR MOTHERS

GOD HEAR MY PRAYERS

I will be busy with company for the next few days. If you are in need of a handkerchief or would like to request one for someone please email me at: dpucci9972@gmail.com

WHY?

2009-09-02T07:00:00.000-07:00

I've been doing this blog for just a few short months. I have come to love the women I follow, taking in each word of their journey and letting their pain enter my heart. I have read the posts of women who are living with the pain of a horrific heartache. There really are no words that go deep enough into what they are living with. I was so naive when I started this blog. I had no idea that in today's world there would be so much baby loss. What were the statistics 30 years ago? They are so high now that I can't imagine them being higher. For me, the naive one, I don't understand why this isn't big news. We hear horrific stories on the news day in and day out yet there is no mention of baby loss. WHY?

So every once in awhile, actually fairly often you come across the stories of the brave women who have conceived again praying for a full term live baby. Some of them succeed and it is the most wonderful thing to read about. I sit at my computer thanking God for giving them what they so desire as I cry tears of happiness. Then you read the story about the mother who has lost two other babies over the last 3 years only to give birth to a supposedly healthy baby who dies 3 days later. WHY?

I know how much they want to be mothers to healthy babies. How do you trust in God when faced with so much grief? We cannot walk away from God because He is right there next to you all the time. Without Him we have nothing. But here I am trying to comprehend this and all I want to do is scream out to God. WHY?

Why do these babies have to die? Why do woman who abuse their children get to keep theirs? Why are there woman like Octomom who get to have so many babies while others have none. WHY?

Then on top of this I read the sad stories by these women who have been almost shunned by family and friends. WHY can't people talk about this to them? They seem to get treated as if nothing happened to them. They gave birth to a baby/babies who passed away and it's as if their child never existed. WHY?

I just had to get this out. I hope I didn't say anything to offend anyone. Yes I am very new at this and maybe I shouldn't be saying anything at all. Please forgive me if I crossed the line. I too have been overlooked by family and friends when I try to show them my blog and what I am doing. I am proud of this blog yet only a few have said anything about it. So I guess I shouldn't be surprised when this tragic news isn't on TV . So how do we get this information out there, how do we get heard and how do we teach people to communicate with these dear women? HOW?

So I walked away from this post, giving my soapbox anger time to digest and I still felt compelled to post it. I hope you understand the my God is an awesome God and that I know He isn't taking the babies. He is the one who is holding the babies and I am thankful for having that knowledge. I believe in God and I believe in Heaven. Faith is the only way we can survive on this Earth.

JOIN ME IN PRAYER

2009-09-01T07:52:00.000-07:00

I was so excited this morning when I saw that there was a post from Mirne. I have been waiting to see pictures of her new son Jethro (Jet) Craig Wilhelm who was born on August 29, 2009. What I found was a post telling us of his passing this morning. Please join me in prayer for Craig and Mirne as they mourn the loss of their third child. Please visit her blog and give her your love. I don't even know what to say, my heart is heavy with sadness.

http://freyja-kees-lovedsomuch.blogspot.com/2009/09/jet-29-august-2009-to-1-september-2009.html

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If you have their address I would greatly appreciate it. dpucci9972@gmail.com

A LIGHT BULB MOMENT

2009-09-01T00:00:00.000-07:00

This post is early but I just couldn't wait until September 22 to share this with you. I think that it is important for me to talk about this and I am also excited about it. On September 22, 2008 I quit smoking with the help of Chantix. So they keep track of your progress and they also keep track of how much money you have saved over the year. I have to tell you that the amount of money I saved by quitting is almost exactly (to the penny) the same as the amount of money I have spent on my handkerchief ministry. That really excites me. So actually I haven't spent a penny because that money would have been smoked away during the year. Isn't that fantastic news? Sending out the handkerchiefs is much better for my heart in so many ways.

I GIVE ALL PRAISE TO GOD.

ALL PRAISE BE TO GOD

2009-08-29T11:40:00.000-07:00

Please visit this blog and then come back:
http://wyattnathaniel.blogspot.com/2009/08/coincidence-or-divine-intervention.html

This is the very reason I am doing this ministry and why God has placed this on my heart. The feeling I have in my heart today is pure jubilation. This is the word that came to me. In my dictionary it says "happy celebration, as of victory." The victory is that if I can give you one moment of peace/comfort on your painful journey of loss I have succeeded in the ministry God has given me.

Matthew 5:4 says "Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted."

POSTS THAT HAVE TOUCHED MY HEART

2009-08-20T08:25:00.000-07:00

If this is your first visit to "For Your Tears" please read my first post from June 21, 2009.

Since I started this project in June I have mailed out 28 handkerchiefs. I thought that I would share with you a few posts that are near and dear to me. If I have missed someone's post about their handkerchief please let me know and I will make sure you get added to this page. I have made so many friends along the way and I give all praise to God. I have been overwhelmed by the amount of baby loss that I have seen. I was so naive and I want to apologize for that. Also if you are looking for a way to help comfort someone who has lost a baby check out this post by Trisha at http://lookingforbluesky.blogspot.com/2009/06/drowning.html

From what I have read over the last few months not only do women suffer from the loss of their child which is horrific on its own but they are also suffering from the way people start to treat them. These women need to talk about their loss, please don't be afraid to listen to their story. Please remember that there is not a time frame for grieving and they will never be over it. Please take some time to check out these blogs and the kind words that have been said about my project. Laura, Holly, Michele and Bree have become my dear friends and I thank God for bringing them to me. Please pray for Michele who is currently in the hospital holding on tight to her twins.

http://momentsofpause.blogspot.com/2009/07/kindness-of-others.html
http://carleighmckenna.blogspot.com/2009/07/for-your-tears-carly.html
http://mylifeafterloss.blogspot.com/2009/07/for-your-tears.html
http://butterflybaby15.blogspot.com/2009/07/well.html

Thank you for stopping over. If you know of someone who is in need of a handkerchief to catch their tears please comment on this page or send me an email at dpucci9972@gmail.com . I would need their full name, address and a brief description of their loss. Take care and God bless.

Don't forget to pick up my button so we can spread the word and get a handkerchief to someone in need. Thank you to all who have my button on their blog page.

KEEPING YOU INFORMED

2009-08-03T14:32:00.000-07:00

IF THIS IS YOUR FIRST VISIT PLEASE READ MY POST FROM JUNE 21, 2009.

Just wanted you to know that I had a wonderful visit with my family from Florida. You can check out some pictures at http://www.skyesofblue.blogspot.com/ Just a reminder that I will be in and out allot the next few weeks so please send me an email at: dpucci9972@gmail.com if you need me to send a handkerchief to a women in need. Thank you to everyone who has placed my button on your blog. I continue to get requests, which of course is very sad, and I am pleased to mail out the handkerchiefs to these women. Take care and God Bless.

2009-07-26T01:55:00.000-07:00

THANK YOU CHRISSY AT

BITTER SWEET MOMENTS

For My Three Awards

http://geranandchrissy.blogspot.com/

Please see awards at botton of blog.

KEEP ME POSTED

2009-07-24T08:00:00.000-07:00

If this is your first time visiting here, please go to my archive and read "This Comes From My Heart" that I posted on June 21, 2009. I have five family members coming to visit for the next ten days so I will not be on my computer a whole lot. I do not want to miss sending a handkerchief to someone in need so please leave a comment and I will get back to you for the detailed information or please email me at dpucci9972@gmail.com and provide me with the full name, address and a brief description of what happened. I will also be going on vacation in August where I will have very limited service. I should be able to check my emails so please send requests to my email address. What I plan on doing is taking a few handkerchief boxes with me all set to go with postage so if you know of someone who is in need I can mail that out. Thank you so much for supporting me. I have mailed out over 20 handkerchiefs in the last month and I feel very blessed being able to touch the heart of a grieving woman. Thank you to everyone who has put my button up on your blog. Take care and God Bless.

JUST A REMINDER

2009-07-21T09:45:00.000-07:00

It has been my pleasure to mail out the handkerchiefs. I feel very sad about the circumstances but if I can help for just one day that is a good thing. Please remember to comment here if you know someone that I can mail one too. The majority of the ones I have mailed out have been through my personal contact with the women and I will continue to do that. Thank you for your support.

MY BUTTON IS READY

2009-07-20T10:53:00.000-07:00

For everyone who has been asking, my button is now ready. Thank you for supporting me in this new venture. God Bless.